Sorry folks, I had to forgo my Friday Feature as I haven't had much of a chance to peruse any blogs since I am just returning from our vacation. So in lieu of featuring a marriage related blog I've decided to share a marriage tip! I cannot claim this to be my own idea as it is not. But I still find it worth sharing. My husband and I had about a year long engagement and during that time we really focused on marriage preparation. With guidance from our priest we set our sights on creating a strong foundation. (Note: He is the only priest in our parish who had at one time been married as he entered the priesthood after his wife's passing). Since our spiritual advisor had real life experience it made us very comfortable knowing that he knew what he was talking about! We also participated in Engagement Encounter which addresses that "a wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime". We gained quite a bit of useful information. Of the many things that we learned one of my favorites is from a suggestion made by one of the long-time married couples: watch your wedding video and look at your wedding photos from time to time. Remind yourself of how joyous you were and how happily & freely you each entered the promise "through good times and bad", "in sickness and in health", etc... It is especially useful when you are feeling annoyed with one another. Every anniversary I make it a point to watch. Admittedly the entire video is much too long to watch often. Luckily my husband made a "highlight" video. I used to cringe when seeing myself get all happily choked up and on the verge of tears as I am not very comfortable with any public displays of raw emotion. I am getting better though. I love seeing my husband and I so happy that I watch it from time to time even when I am not annoyed! I would LOVE to hear about your marriage tips! Please share!
I must note that ALL of the marriage prep discussions that we had from people including our priest, to the couples hosting the Engagement retreat, to our friends and family who are married...They ALL shared that EVERY marriage has its tough times and that being married is not easy. Staying married is happier when you see and remember the day it all started. Watch your video. Together!